Mental Health

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Suicide
Anxiety
Depression

S
A
D

Suicide
Anxiety
Depression

This is for every person who is scared 
they'll never become the person they truly want to be

'While we don’t know what causes depression…’ 
If that sentence looks and sounds familiar, it's because this is how most of the leading websites on mental health begin their explanation of what depression is. How depressing. When you're lost and seeking help this is NOT what you want to hear.

I have experienced Suicide, Anxiety and Depression (SAD) to varying degrees from uncontrollable crying, fits of rage and anger, panic attacks, numbness and isolation to the harrowingly calm moments just before I was about to take my own life. Through my lived experience (over 21 years) I would like to suggest something, that all the great experts and scientist in the world seem to agree on....

Thought Causes All

One bad thought wont make you depressed, however I believe from my lived-experience, its the fearful thoughts that aren’t addressed or properly rationalised that can inevitably become our habitual way of thinking.  

We were never taught HOW to think, only what to think. We accepted ideas that weren’t our own and lived out somebody else’s values and ideal.
Children who are praised grow up to be confident adults
Children who were criticised grow up to be insecure adults

Our world is a reflection of the decisions we make. So where do our decisions come from?  Our mind. Our thoughts. 
I strongly believe that when someone is depressed or SAD or experiencing any form of not being OK, we should first ask them 2 things

What thoughts have you been thinking the most lately ?

What does your self-talk, your inner dialogue sound like?

Encourage them to tell you, to be open, even write it out, just help them get it out of them so they can SEE what's happening on the inside .
Mental illness is MENTAL. There’s no logic to it and it can be so isolating and FEEL SO GOD DAMN REAL. Often my thoughts were so loud that they are real i i felt like i had no choice but accept them as my reality

Getting Our Thoughts And Our Self Talk Out On Paper Or 
Verbalising It to Someone Can Be An Interrupter.

In my experience, especially heading towards suicide it became so habitual (like almost all of our behaviour) that ‘killing myself’ became my go to thought response. Now I know that may sound dramatic and to some maybe it sounds absurd that I would just so quickly and easily be ready to end my life in an instant.

It didn’t start out like that. Circumstances would cause my emotions and feelings to build and build and build until it felt like I was going to explode. I can recall many times when I would just scream at myself ‘just kill yourself’ and it brought a strange relief in that moment. 

When things got too much, again I would respond the same way, this became so 'normal' for me – so habitual that it became my 'go to.' 

I often would feel completely overwhelmed, like I couldn’t escape my mind, my thoughts and myself, and the thought of not being here, the thought of stopping my thoughts, even if that meant stopping my life brought relief to me in that moment.

I’m not suggesting or downplaying SAD and saying 'it's just a habit' we can easily get over. 

Its an epidemic in our world today and when the top leading organisations for SAD’s 
opening line on their website is 
‘While we don’t know what causes depression…’ 
something has be done.

I struggled with SAD and suicidal ideation for over 21 years – I have 21 year’s lived experience of intimately being submerged in the relentless torment, anguish and brutality of my own thoughts and feelings and wanting to escape, wanting to exit this world just for moments peace and silence.
I speak from my lived-experience. My SAD came from critically low self-esteem that started in my childhood, constant self-criticism which swiftly turned into self-loathing and gave birth to self-hate.
At 14 years old I honestly believed that I would never ever amount to anything and so began the long and torturous journey of trying to fit in a world where I felt I had no purpose.

Low Self-esteem. Extreme Self-doubt. Complete Self-loathing.

I desperately wanted to be somebody do great things, but my self-image wouldn’t allow me to even entertain the thoughts of dreaming big, my thoughts would scream and laugh at me they taunted me for over 20 years.
What I learned is that I’m not my thoughts and probably the greatest revelation was that many of my thoughts and ideas aren’t even mine. I’m believing crap that a school teacher once told me about not being good enough, repetitive fearful thinking from other people constantly pushing their worries onto me and telling me I was going to run out of money, despite the fact that I was running a very successful business – NOT MY THOUGHTS, but I heard them constantly and for long enough that I took them on and I started to believe them and they became my beliefs and habitual way of thinking

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A
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What is it?
Can we Shift it?
If so....How?

I mentioned earlier that we aren’t taught how to think really only what to think, or we subconsciously pick up the thoughts and beliefs that our parents and families demonstrate and verbalise during our childhood.  

Louise Hay puts it so beautifully. 'Its just a thought a thought can be changed’

I didn’t discover that the voices that were taunting me throughout my adolescence were in fact Not me at all – they were just thoughts. Not even MY thoughts. Just thoughts I was repetitively thinking. I don’t know about you but my thoughts sound like me. They have MY voice and the speak at the same speed and with the same inflections that I do. So its natural to believe that they are my thoughts.

You can Choose AND Change your Thoughts  

You can choose to think positive thoughts, or negative thoughts – its either or – there is no neutral thinking. Positive thoughts will build your faith and have you moving forward and negative will keep you stuck and going backwards.
 
If you want to choose your thoughts, the we have to start to understand thoughts and where they come from. 
  • The mind. Let’s look at the mind.
  • The mind. Let’s look at the mind.
The Conscious Mind – This is your thinking mind, your educated mind. We gather information with this part of our mind, it's where our intellect resides. Our Conscious mind has the ability to chose. It has the ability to accept or reject any thought that comes into it. 
We have so much untapped potential locked up inside of us, BUT we are thinking things we don’t want to be thinking! to be able to chose our thoughts we must gain a better understanding of who we are and how our mind works.
Gaining a better understanding of ourself is not that easy. It can be scary. Were tapping into parts of our personality that were not really familiar with

The Subconscious Mind. This is your emotional mind. It doesn’t have the ability to choose. It has to accept anything you give to it. It doesn't have the to reason or choose anything, it can only accept the thoughts you give it. Your subconscious mind can not differentiate between what you imagine and what's actually real. If you can visualise yourself doing something and you continue to imagine and see yourself doing that thing, then, by law you will eventually see what you imaged become your reality. We've all limitless potential and talent inside of us, so why don’t we do it?

Let's look to our Childhood

As a baby and child, we see that their minds are completely open, (like my funny diagram to the left!) Little babies haven’t learned how to use their conscious higher facilities, things like reason and their will, or memory yet, so their mind is completely open ready to absorb anything and EVERYTHING you put in it.
Our Subconscious Mind was filled with whatever was going on around us in our early years. If you weren’t born into a super positive and a very creative family, you're probably quiet confident and believe you can make things happen, however if you grew up around a lot of criticism or negativity odds are you’ve got some ideas in there that are not benefiting you and you may want to change.
That’s where the image of you was formed. You have a self image. And its this self image that really keeps us locked into to where we are. It also the concept of the self image that will cause us to go where we truly want to go.

Check out my blog on Self Image here for more about your Self-Image and how that may be holding you back or keeping you stuck in the same thought patterns and behaviours.

So this is the way we're programmed in our little life. We are programmed in so many different ways, in every way in fact. We're programmed to eat the foods we eat, like the activities we like, speak the language we speak. 

Our perception is controlled in the area at a very early age. And because our behaviour is habitual, we continue to Think, Act and Behave with these Thoughts, Feelings and Beliefs that we’ve been programmed with.

So why don’t we change. You're smart, you can think, 
why don’t we just reject all the stuff we don’t want to believe. 

Because the paradigm is controlling us


SAD and self-hate and low self esteem, things like:

'I’m hopeless' '
I’ll never be able to that'
I hate myself' 
I hate my life'

These types of thought patterns perpetuate more and more of those thoughts and feelings. 
They become habitual and you really start to believe them on a subconscious level.

I continued to say those things and much worse things over and over to myself everyday of my life from before I was 13 years old.

I reinforced these feelings into my subconscious mind and so I continued living that way because that’s the program I was running.

How Do You Shift A Paradigm? 
How Do You Go From Self-Hate To 
Self-Love And Acceptance?

You probably just read that, maybe even rolled your eyes and thought 'There's no way you can change the thoughts or how I feel about myself - I've tried everything and nothing ever works. How can I love myself, I don’t even like myself?

PLEASE KEEP READING!

I've had those feelings so many times, for over 20 years they were my dominate thoughts and feelings. Hopelessness, Impossibility, "Please life just swallow my up and be done with it"
Even when it wasn't the darkest of times, the 'normal times' my everyday life, I would wake to the sound of a malicious evil voice, constantly criticising every move I'd make throughout my day. It was a broken record of shame and doubt
Every. Single. Day.

I intimately know what you're thinking, how you're feeling. And I'm also living I'm proof that you can reprogram your mind and not have to continue the way you're living. I've shifted my mental programming many times and you can do. It's not easy but it is most certainly possible.

You Start By Feeding Your Subconscious Mind With New Ideas 
The Things You WISH You Believed About Yourself

Now, you probably wont believe them at the start, you’re programmed not to, BUT with consistent repetition over time, you can and will begin to shift your beliefs. And once you start believing these new beliefs you’ll start automatically thinking new thoughts about yourself and your world. 

Your mind will fight it. It's a Mental Diet - the things you feed the most wins. You must starve the crippling and deliberating self-talk and commit to being persistent and consistent and slowly but surely you will change. It’s a universal law, like the law of gravity, if you jump out of a plane you'll always go down you’ll never go up, and this is a law - We become what we think about.

This can be extremely difficult especially to attempt to do on your own. If you're serious about changing and really want a different life with different thoughts and beliefs, reach out. I have a program that is designed specifically to change paradigms, reprogram your mind and have you living the way you want to live and not merely surviving.
Mental Health
  S    Suicide 
  A    Anxiety
  D    Depression
Suicide 
Anxiety
Depression

This is for every person who is fearful 
they'll never become the person they
 truly want to be

'While we don’t know what causes depression…’ 

If that sentence looks and sounds familiar, it's because this is how most of the leading websites on mental health begin their explanation of what depression is. How depressing. When you're lost and seeking help this is NOT what you want to hear.

I have experienced Suicide, Anxiety and Depression (SAD) to varying degrees from uncontrollable crying, fits of rage and anger, panic attacks, numbness and isolation to the harrowingly calm moments just before I was about to take my own life. Through my lived experience (over 21 years) I would like to suggest something, that all the great experts and scientist in the world seem to agree on....

Thought causes all

One bad thought wont make you depressed, however I believe from my lived-experience, its the fearful thoughts that aren’t addressed or properly rationalised that can inevitably become our habitual way of thinking.  

We were never taught HOW to think, only what to think. We accepted ideas that weren’t our own and lived out somebody else’s values and ideal.
Children who are praised grow up to be 
confident adults
Children who were criticised grow up to be insecure adults

Our world is a reflection of the decisions we make. So where do our decisions come from? Our mind. Our thoughts. 
I strongly believe that when someone is depressed or SAD or experiencing any form of not being OK, we should first ask them 2 things:

What thoughts have you been thinking the most lately?

What does your self-talk, your inner dialogue sound like?

Encourage them to tell you, to be open, even write it out, just help them get it out of them so they can SEE what's happening on the inside.

Mental illness is MENTAL. There’s no logic to it and it can be so isolating and FEEL SO GOD DAMN REAL. Often My Thoughts Would Be So Loud that they appeared so frighteningly real and I felt like I had no choice but accept them as my reality.
Getting our thoughts and our self talk out on paper or verbalising it to someone can be an interrupter.
In my experience, especially heading towards suicide it became so habitual (like almost all of our behaviour) that ‘killing myself’ became my go to thought response. 
Now I know that may sound dramatic and to some maybe it sounds absurd that I would just so quickly and easily be ready to end my life in an instant.

It didn’t start out like that. Circumstances would cause my emotions and feelings to build and build and build until it felt like I was going to explode. I can recall many times when I would just scream at myself ‘just kill yourself’ and it brought a strange relief in that moment. 

When things got too much, again I would respond the same way, this became so 'normal' for me – so habitual that it became my 'go to.' 

I often would feel completely overwhelmed, like I couldn’t escape my mind, my thoughts and myself, and the thought of not being here, the thought of stopping my thoughts, even if that meant stopping my life brought relief to me in that moment.

I’m not suggesting or downplaying SAD and saying 'it's just a habit' we can easily get over. 
It's an epidemic in our world today and when the top leading organisations for SAD’s opening line on their website is ‘While we don’t know what causes depression…’ something has be done.
I struggled with SAD and suicidal ideation for over 21 years – I have 21 year’s lived experience of intimately being submerged in the relentless torment, anguish and brutality of my own thoughts and feelings and desperately wanting to escape, wanting to exit this world just for moments silence and peace.

I speak from my lived-experience. My SAD grew from critically low self-esteem that started in my childhood, constant self-criticism which swiftly turned into self-loathing and gave birth to self-hate.
At 14 years old I honestly believed in the depth of my soul that I would never ever amount to anything and so began the long and torturous journey of trying to fit in a world where I felt I had no purpose.
Low Self-esteem. Extreme Self-doubt. 
Complete self-loathing
I desperately wanted to 'be somebody great' and  do inspiring things with my life, but my self-image wouldn’t allow me to even entertain thoughts of dreaming big. The moment hope or desire for a dream even entered mind, my thoughts would scream and laugh at me, they ruthlessly taunted me for over 20 years.

What I've come to learn is that I’m not my thoughts and probably the greatest revelation was that many of my thoughts and ideas aren’t even mine. 
I didn't originate them, so that allowed me to stop blaming myself. I was believing crap that a school teacher once told me about not being good enough and repetitive fearful thinking from other people constantly pushing their worries, insecurities and limiting beliefs onto me. Telling me I could lose everything, despite the fact that I was running a very successful business – NOT MY THOUGHTS, but I heard them constantly and for long enough that I took them on and I started to believe them and they became MY beliefs and habitual way of thinking.
         S       what is it? 
         A       can we shift it?
         D       If so....HOW?
I mentioned earlier that we aren’t taught how to think really only what to think, or we subconsciously pick up the thoughts and beliefs that our parents and families demonstrate and verbalise during our childhood.  

Louise Hay puts it so beautifully. 'Its just a thought a thought can be changed’

I didn’t discover that the voices that were taunting me throughout my adolescence and well into my twenties were in fact NOT me at all – they were just thoughts. Not even MY thoughts. Just thoughts I was repetitively thinking. 

I don’t know about you but my thoughts sound 
A LOT like me. They have MY voice and they speak at the same speed and with the same inflections that I do. So it's natural to believe that they are 
my thoughts.

You can Choose AND 
Change your Thoughts  

You can choose to think positive thoughts, or negative thoughts – its either or – there is no neutral thinking. Positive thoughts will build your faith and have you moving forward and negative will keep you stuck and going backwards.
 
If you want to choose your thoughts, the we have to start to understand thoughts and where they come from. The mind. Let’s look at the mind.
You can choose to think positive thoughts, or negative thoughts – its either or – there is no neutral thinking. Positive thoughts will build your faith and have you moving forward and negative will keep you stuck and going backwards.
 If you want to choose your thoughts, the we have to start to understand thoughts and where they come from.
The Mind. Let’s look at the Mind.
The Conscious Mind – This is your thinking mind, your educated mind. We gather information with this part of our mind, it's where our intellect resides. Our Conscious mind has the ability to chose. It has the ability to accept or reject any thought that comes into it. 
We have so much untapped potential locked up inside of us, BUT we are thinking things we don’t want to be thinking! to be able to chose our thoughts we must gain a better understanding of who we are and how our mind works.
Gaining a better understanding of ourself is not that easy. It can be scary. Were tapping into parts of our personality that were not really familiar with

The Subconscious Mind. This is your emotional mind. It doesn’t have the ability to choose. It has to accept anything you give to it. It doesn't have the to reason or choose anything, it can only accept the thoughts you give it. Your subconscious mind can not differentiate between what you imagine and what's actually real. If you can visualise yourself doing something and you continue to imagine and see yourself doing that thing, then, by law you will eventually see what you imaged become your reality. We've all limitless potential and talent inside of us, so why don’t we do it?

Let's Look To Our Childhood

As a baby and child, we see  that their minds are completely open, (like my funny diagram below!) Little babies haven’t learned how to use their conscious higher facilities, things like reason and their will, or memory yet, so their mind is completely open ready to absorb anything and EVERYTHING you put in it.
Our Subconscious mind was filled with whatever was going on around us in our early years. If you weren’t born into a super positive and a very creative family, you're probably quiet confident and believe you can make things happen, however if you grew up around a lot of criticism or negativity odds are you’ve got some ideas in there that are not benefiting you and you may want to change.
That’s where the image of you was formed. You have a self image. And its this self image that really keeps us locked into to where we are. It also the concept of the self image that will cause us to go where we truly want to go.

Check out my blog on Self Image here for more about your Self-Image and how that may be holding you back or keeping you stuck in the same thought patterns and behaviours.

So this is the way we're programmed in our little life. We are programmed in so many different ways, in every way in fact. We're programmed  to eat the foods we eat, like the activities we like, speak the language we speak. 

Our perception is controlled in the area at a very early age. And because our behaviour is habitual, we continue to Think, Act and Behave with these Thoughts, Feelings and Beliefs that we’ve been programmed with.

So why don’t we change?
 You're smart, you can think, why don’t we just reject all the stuff we don’t want to believe? 

Because our paradigm is controlling us.

SAD and self-hate and low self esteem, things like:
'I’m hopeless' '
I’ll never be able to that'
I hate myself' 
I hate my life'
these types of thought patterns perpetuate more and more of those thoughts and feelings. 
They become habitual and you really start to believe them on a subconscious level.

I continued to say those things and much worse things over and over to myself everyday of my life from before I was 13 years old.

I reinforced these feelings into my subconscious mind and so I continued living that way because that’s the program I was running.

How do you shift a paradigm? 
How do you go from self-hate to 
self-love and acceptance?

You probably just read that, maybe even rolled your eyes and thought 'There's no way you can change the thoughts or how I feel about myself - I've tried everything and nothing ever works. How can I love myself, I don’t even like myself?

PLEASE KEEP READING!

I've had those feelings so many times, for over 20 years they were my dominate thoughts and feelings. Hopelessness, Impossibility, "Please life just swallow my up and be done with it"
Even when it wasn't the darkest of times, the 'normal times' my everyday life, I would wake to the sound of a malicious evil voice, constantly criticising every move I'd make throughout my day. It was a broken record of shame and doubt
Every. Single. Day.

I intimately know what you're thinking, how you're feeling. And I'm also living I'm proof that you can reprogram your mind and not have to continue the way you're living. I've shifted my mental programming many times and you can do. It's not easy but it is most certainly possible.

You start by feeding your subconscious mind with new ideas. The things you WISH you believed about yourself

Now, you probably wont believe them at the start, you’re programmed not to, BUT with consistent repetition over time, you can and will begin to shift your beliefs. And once you start believing these new beliefs you’ll start automatically thinking new thoughts about yourself and your world. 

Your mind will fight it. It's a Mental Diet - the things you feed the most wins. You must starve the crippling and deliberating self-talk and commit to being persistent and consistent and slowly but surely you will change. It’s a universal law, like the law of gravity, if you jump out of a plane you'll always go down you’ll never go up, and this is a law - We become what we think about.

This can be extremely difficult especially to attempt to do on your own. If you're serious about changing and really want a different life with different thoughts and beliefs, reach out. I have a program that is designed specifically to change paradigms, reprogram your mind and have you living the way you want to live and not merely surviving.

This is for every person who is fearful 
they'll never become the person they truly want to be

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